Should Gay Actors Come Out? I’m Inviting Your Discussion…

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  1. Maria Costello
    December 15, 2009 | 3:28 pm

    I agree completely with Valery. It’s not about “should”. It’s a personal choice. For example, I think it’s important to allow actors who wish to keep certain aspects of their lives private, the freedom to do so. In this day and age, I think so much that’s publicized about actors’ lives is TMI. I can understand why there are some who want the public to know as little as possible about them and keep the focus on their WORK.

  2. Dana Kaminski
    December 15, 2009 | 2:35 pm

    Valery–

    You have become a regular commenter to my blog. I appreciate you stating your opinion.

    I had a visceral response to your comment that I’d like to respond with.

    Would you be kind enough to list some of the actors who are out and gay. I am not sure that there ARE plenty. Are there? I can think of a few. Not a whole lot.

    That being said, I also wonder how you are so sure with your absolute statement about Mr Everett. Do you know him? Or are you basing your assessment from the excerpts that I posted from The Guardian.

    Who is the “you” to which you are talking to in this comment? Is it Mr Everett? Is it other gay actors? Is it me?

    I wonder if you are saying that Mr Everett is not aligning himself with his own truth. He doesn’t appear to have any trouble with, clear expression–he does seem to do what you are directing the reader (?) to do in your comment. “Here to express himself fully and authentically.”

    About your expertise about Mr Everett and your declaration about his struggle not being external with the industry–are you in the industry?

    Are you an actor? I know you are a regular reader of my blog because you comment so frequently.

    I must tell you that your comment perturbed me a bit. Not only because you wrote with such an arrogance about someone else’s situation; and people that judge others, especially with an attitude of visionary and superior status, is something that I find intolerable. Personally.

    If you are qualified to be superior, I am willing to hear you side.

    I also wish to state, with absolute kindness and openness to being wrong about the following:

    Comments are welcome here if they are either from or for the acting community. My blog is for actors, by actors.

    It is not a platform for free advertising. If you are using my blog comment area as a way to get attention for yourself, and some ancillary business then you are not being real and authentic here. If that is true, as it appears to me, then your comments are no longer welcome.

    However, if you are an actor, or you feel that your comments are truly adding to the conversation and are contributing to this blog in an actor forum type of way, then please use the contact form above to state your case. I will gladly retract my statements here about what I consider your intent to be.

    But if we do come to some kind of peace about what your true intent is when you comment on my blog, I will ask you, and anyone else who leaves a comment in the future:

    You are welcome to your opinion, and to send it to me for publication. I have the right to accept or not accept any comments, and I usually put everything up, except spam.

    I will not put up anything that is a superior judgment. If it is an opinion, even on someone else, fine. Then state is as such.

    Clearly, this is a comment-about-posts on Hollywood Actor Prep form.Comments. Not an opportunity to market anyone’s services, or to do so under the guise of participating in a debate or conversation.

    Unfortunately, even if the intention is better than that, I will, in the future, not post any comments that may seem to have an ulterior motive. Or have a double motive, to comment and to try to rev up some business or notice for yourself.

    It’s important to me, to keep this blog an authentic place. There is a suffocating amount of marketing going on, on the internet. It’s already pushed a lot of people away from the internet, and I won’t let that happen here.

    Sorry to have to single out your comments, and you, for this point; but frankly, I am offended. I am.

    If you can show me that your intent was more valid than it seems, then I will write a retraction. And I am willing to chalk up the superiority of your assessment about Mr Everett’s problems as a miscommunication in your writing.

    I am very protective of other actors, obviously. The journey of an acting profession is fierce. If I can make other’s more attuned and sensitive to that, then I have accomplished something here.

    ALtogether, I wish more humanity, all the time, in our culture. We all judge each other so freely and so arrogantly. Mostly, it’s so apparent to me that he or she who is doing the judging, hasn’t the experience to do so.

    1.Everyone should walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. That’s my blanket judgement.
    2. I think we need to separate, once again, and create some kind of clear boundaries between business and pleasure. The motive of participating in a discussion is just that, unless you are doing so for another self-serving purpose. If so, then it ruins the truthful platform for everyone.

    Thanks,
    Dana

  3. valery satterwhite
    December 15, 2009 | 7:36 am

    It’s not a question of “should”. NEVER allow any one or any thing (government, industry, etc.) ‘should’ all over you; determine what you can and cannot do. Always align yourself with your truth and highest good. You are here to express yourself fully and authentically.

    There are plenty of gay actors who are out and very successful. Their sexuality does not limit their ability to succeed in their craft. There are others who are derailed by a multitude of circumstances, sexual preference is only one. Circumstances do not create your experience. It is what you have the circumstance, the event, the truth, mean for and about you and your world that creates the ultimate outcome of those events.

    Rupert’s struggle isn’t external – with the industry – it is internal, with himself. With love and compassion it is up to each of us to allow another to find his or her own way in their personal journey.

  4. RJValenta
    December 14, 2009 | 11:09 pm

    people should be allowed to do whatever they want, this is the United States after all. having said that, acting is a profession, each person must decide what impact their personal actions will have on their lives. while its sad that many people are too insecure to accept homosexuality, their opinions may still have an impact on someone’s life. in that, it’s each person’s decision until we can help those who are unable to see past their bias.

    • Dana Kaminski
      December 14, 2009 | 11:18 pm

      Before I was entirely finished the final edit of this post, you wrote a comment. And may I say, that it thrilled me! Thanks for leaving a comment so promptly! I meant it when I said that I want this to be a discussion, and I welcome all comments. I do hope there are more. I thank you very much, for yours.
      Dana

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